Deep into preparation for an important facilitation session, I’m busy with the usual gathering of information and putting together the PowerPoint presentation. As with every other time, I am dealing with my internal “miss doubter”… asking me: are you good enough?
I am so tired of having to deal with her! Surely this should get easier?!
I had a session with my coach and spoke about the public speaking courses I had attended, including toast masters, and the advice was great, but it just didn’t seem to work.
As I talked through my thoughts and challenges, I had an incredible realisation. All these years I have had this belief that I had to start strong, be confident, show my level of expertise and knowledge and be perfect! My coach asked how that had worked for me so far? I had a long giggle, followed by a deep sigh – the realisation dawned on me and the shift was instant.
I am not perfect ~ no one is. I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. I am me and my expertise comes from years of experience. It’s my responsibility to show up, be seen, be brave and vulnerable. It is NOT however, my responsibility to try and be perfect. I had it wrong for far too long.
So, a message to my “miss doubter”. It’s OK, you can relax. I have got this. I am courageous and I’m being me. It may be messy, but I can do this, and so can you!